Monday, January 14, 2013

Love Language Quiz


Take the Love Language quiz!
Linda Goodnight here revisiting a popular topic. If you’ve read Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages, or even if you’ve heard about it, you probably know the general "languages": Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Gifts, Quality time, Physical touch. I have to confess that even after reading the book and taking the quiz, I still couldn’t identify my own until my daughter-in-law pointed out a specific thing I do for those I love. I cook for them. Boy, do I cook for them. There is nothing I love better than for my family to come over and let me feed them. This discovery made me realize that the five love languages as defined by Chapman are general topics. Your love language, like mine, may be a specific behavior encompassed by one of the general topics. Because let me tell you, my "acts of service" do not extend to cleaning houses or washing cars. Just cooking.

If you’ve never done so, hope over to this site and take the love language quiz. Then share. What's your specific way of showing love? (These could be great ideas for developing future book characters!)
 

 
Linda Goodnight was too busy cooking for the holidays to remember she had a book releasing in the month of January. Check out an excerpt from Rancher’s Refuge, book one in Linda’s heartwarming new series, Whisper Falls.

16 comments:

  1. I took the test and scored high on Quality time followed by acts of service. I knew physical tough would be low as I am not comfortable with hugging. Even as a little child I didn't like to be cuddled by anyone but family. But I do appreciate quality time with people and contact with people. I think for myself I tend to like to show love in service. I clean for a few ladies and while I get paid I enjoy it cos I know it helps them and will do extra things to help. For me at present if someone would come and offer to mow my lawn I would be over the moon, as with my wrist injured I cant do this task.

    thanks for the link will look out for your new book.

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  2. That book was an eye opener for me when my kids were small and trying to figure out what made them feel loved, because while my highest score for both showing and feeling loved was acts of service, it wasn't for my kids. Each were different, and when I made intentional efforts to show them love in the way most meaningful to them, wow, what a difference!

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  3. Jenny, it does sound like the way you show love is by quality time and acts of service. They kind of go hand in hand, don't they? I love that feeling of being able to help someone out. I think I get as much out of it as they do!

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  4. Sandra, you've given me a great idea which I hadn't considered. Since I have two adopted daughters, I need all the tools possible to be sure I'm showing them love in the way that really speaks to their hearts.

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  5. One thing that confused me in the book, though, is this. Maybe someone can help me figure it out. Is the way a person SHOWS love the same way they want to RECIEVE love?

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  6. Linda, I loved this book! I've had all my kids take the quiz as well and have learned how to better love them so that they FEEL loved. :)

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  7. BTW, my love language is acts of service.

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  8. Linda, I think we all tend to show love the way we want to be loved. So we have to work to love our family the way they NEED to be loved.

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  9. Missy, I am not surprised yours is acts of service. It seems you are always doing something for someone, including this group!

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  11. Linda, you're sweet to say that. :)

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  12. Linda:

    "Is the way a person SHOWS love the same way they want to RECIEVE love?"

    This is a very interesting question. I believe we different on how we want to receive love based on who it is that is giving that love.

    As a husband and man, I want to give love by supporting and protecting the family. I am very high on Affirmation because that is an important part of my Unity belief system. I am highest on giving quality time because men have so many other duties outside the home. I know quality time means a lot when that time might be what you consider well deserved ‘rest time’.

    From a wife I want affection, touch, service, and encouragement.

    Now consider another man. Man to man demonstration. Men sure don’t want demonstrations of love like a wife would give. Men want respect, loyalty, and perhaps a very solid pat on the back.

    Two sons may well be treated like men by the father and two daughters treated like women. So in somes cases I believe one wants to be treated in the way one acts to love another but in other caese one does not want to be loved in the way one shows love to that person.

    I don’t think it is that important to be loved in the way you want to be loved as long as you clearly see that another’s actions result from their love for you.

    To demand to be loved in a given way is almost antithetical to love in the first place.

    Vince

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  13. Linda interesting question. I guess I do like quality time but I found especially when I was sick and when mum died it was the acts of service I appreciated most. The hugs and touching almost sent me of the edge (what is it when a person dies every one and there dog wants to hug you even ones you dont know. I could handle a touch to the arm but the hugs got me to the point of saying please dont and being ignored.)
    It was The neighbour who brought me food when I couldn't hardly get of the couch for long cos I was so weak. the friend who bought me some groceries, the pastor who brought wood right to the fireplace for me That is where I received love. While I love getting surprise gifts like books or a card its the acts of service that really make me feel appreciated as they dont happen alot.

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  14. Thank you, Vince. You make some very good points. You said, "To demand to be loved in a given way is almost antithetical to love in the first place. "

    Very important statement. I think the thing is for us to attempt to show our caring according to another's need because we desire to see them happy and loved, not because we have to. Demanding is, indeed, antithetical. (Love that big word!!)

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  15. I show love by cooking, too, Linda. I also cook what I eat. Not good for the waistline. :)

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